Whether a family is “normal” or “dysfunctional”, having a recorded narrative that spans generations is important. Our stories need to be told to each other and to subsequent generations.
Most of us over 40 know someone who has lost a parent or grandparent regretting that they did not ask them questions about their life experiences? Let’s face it, taking the time to get to know someone for who they are as a person (based on a familiarity of their unique life experiences) requires one to step outside of themselves and ask the questions and then listen.
It is not an easy thing to do in a fast paced egocentric society where soundbites and short attention spans rule.
An article in the NY Times entitled “The Stories that Bind Us”, posits that as young children learn more about their parents and grandparents, they begin to feel that they are part of something larger than themselves. They learn that everyone goes through trials and tribulations and that they too can come out of it stronger and wiser. As a result, they are better able to cope with their own perceived difficulties and as a result, enjoy a more optimistic outlook for the future. They become more resilient.
What more reason do you need than that in order to get started on your own family narrative? Not sure about how to go about doing it? Maybe you don’t think anyone would be interested in your story. If that is what you think, you would be wrong. Stay tuned and we will not only share why it is important but we will guide you through the process and show examples to help get you started. Your life (and others’) will be enriched as a result.